Dear Nell Stockton,

I am doing this so you can’t accuse anyone of tribalism. The terfs you have in your head are a delusion, they are a mirror of your own disorder. Because you are a disordered abusive male. You attended the Woman’s Place Todmorden meeting, you were made extremely welcome. You were GIVEN the stage over other women, and you used it to waffle and to display your narcissism and emotionally manipulative and abusive tendencies, you used an example of male violence to explain to women why they were cold hearted for discussing the EXISTING rule of law around safeguarding and equality legislation. You immediately left, you had already threatened to ‘expose’ the location of a small town meeting of women because you wanted those women to know you could expose them to violence and threats if they did not do what you said. You left that meeting, and you immediately defamed Ruth Serwotka, and even though I do not like the culture she is from, your defamation of her showed you up as a mentally disturbed male who seeks to harm women.

You did this because your mental disorder means you feel irrationally angry when women meet. You did this because you believe that the safeguarding contained in Working Together and the Children Act is hate speech and a threat to your identity. Our safeguarding and protections from male violence ARE a threat to your identity. Because you are a mentally unwell abusive male who poses risk to women. You and your friend Toni Harrison are being honest when you say you are threatened by women existing independently frm you, meeting to discuss the rule of law and when you state that safeguarding and protection from male violence are hateful to you. You are to be taken at face value. As what you are. Mentally unwell males who have difficulty with boundaries, with recognising women exist independently from them and who behave threateningly when women show there are boundaries you cannot cross.

Thank you for your demonstration Nell but we didn’t need it. We already knew. Now you need to see a psychologist about your inability to cope with women existing independently from you, your lack of insight into clearly demonstrated abusive behaviour patterns and you appear to have constructed a false identity for yourself which makes you a risk to the people who are the object of your identity. Women. It’s not women’s fault we remind you who you are, and nor do you have the right to keep taking it out on them. The connection you imagine to women is in your head and women do not have to pretend they perceive you as anything but an abusive male and you are certainly not entitled to either their solidarity, their association or to demand that laws and systems which protect women from men like you be liquidated because you have no insight into your behaviour.

I don’t really like Ruth Serwotka that much but you owe her an apology and you need to stay away from women and children until you develop insight into your behaviour patterns and discuss them with a psychologist instead of imposing them on women.

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  1. Really?
    You think this is okay?
    And you a accuse someone else of being “mentally unstable”?
    This is a great example of the sort of bullying that trans women have to put up with on a daily basis and YOU are nothing but a small minded, bigoted, unpleasant bully.
    The reality of life for my friends and allies is that they must always defend themselves and check over their shoulders for people like you because you make life unpleasant and unsafe for them.
    If you actually knew or could empathise with even a fraction of the daily battles you would be a much nicer person, but as it is my personal inclination is to assume that you have a borderline personality disorders that leads you to believe that only your works view is the correct world view, that only you have a right to define yourself and that you have the right to decide what and how other women should think, speak and behave.
    As a woman in ashamed to be associated with you in even the most distant way – I have so much more in common with Nell and my other allies and friends than with you and I absolutely know who I would be prepared to share a platform (or a bathroom!) with, and it’s not you.
    A little time learning and reflecting.
    A little time actually listening to trans women and men rather than trying to impose your own particular unpleasant world view.
    A little time walking in the shots of other women and actually really understanding what it means to be a woman in the world you have helped create.
    All of these things would not go amiss.
    Please take your venom somewhere where it won’t poison the rest of us.

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    • Nell is mentally unstable, and yes Nells male pattern abusive behaviour, desire to use the threat of violence to coerce, the emotional backmail, all indicate a mentally unwell man, who supported the end of freedom of assembly because he felt his mental disorder meat women were not allowed boundaries, he showed he enjoys abuse of women, engages in narcissistic patterns of abuse and is a liar. So no I dont want to be around men like Nell Stockton, I dont want my kids or ANY woman forced into an environment with a man demonstrating what he demonstrates. No. And imposing my own standards, sweety, normal people know the difference between that and normal behaviour, is why htey use the word normal. Your inability to recognise risk is your business.

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      • This is not OK. Take a good look in the mirror because you’re displaying the kind of behaviour you’re accusing Nell of.

        Bullying is unacceptable, full stop. It’s cowardly that you and the other person who posted a reply are doing so from behind aliases.

        Nell is within her right to report this harrassment which is why, no doubt, you are hiding your identities.

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      • Nell is offended at having his behaviour described accurately, in a sequence of events which included leveraging physical intimidation against emotional backmail to coerce and abuse, and then defamed Ruth Serwotka. If Nell is harassed at hearing his behaviour described accurately by the victims then I suggest he changes his behaviour. As for you accusing me of Nells behaviour, I suggest you stop seeking out women you dont know and doing what you accse of them of, narcissistic abuse is easy to spot. If Nell does not wish to be perceived as an abusive manipulative male who poses risk to women I suggest he changes his behaviour and women do not need his permission to assess risk he poses. At all. That is not new.

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      • Oh and tell your friends, women not only have a legal right but an obligation and a duyt to identify male pattern abusive behaviour and narcissism, Nell might want to factor that into how well he passes in fture cos we are not unlearning it and his abuse and harassment of women is not normal and him accusing women of his own behaviour doesnt make him any less dangerous to women.

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  2. Your replies do nothing other than to demonstrate the extreme and abusive nature of your beliefs and showcase your hateful bigotry – and the nonsensical nature of your non-arguments. Your accusations don’t actually appear to contain either an accurate reflection of fact or indeed a great deal of sense.
    (Incidentally, please do not refer to me as “sweetie”. That act adds misogyny to the unspeakable list of abusive behaviours that you are demonstrating.)
    Quite apart from the persistent misgendering, your comments adequately demonstrate that ‘narcicistic behavour’ that you accuse others of – transference maybe?
    Those of us who have replied to you have done so using our own names because we have nothing to fear and nothing to hide. That does not seem to be the case for you. Hiding behind internet anonymity in order to perpetuate abuse against women would seem on the face of it to be the act of a coward.

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  3. I feel so, so sorry for you, author of this vile, hate driven opinion piece. You do not represent kind, fair minded women, cis or other. The hate in your cold heart is inhumane, the vitriol is shocking. Please try to find it somewhere within yourself to be a better human being, you will feel much happier with yourself. I wish you peace. Lea.

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    • No you dont. What you are saying is you have no insight into disturbing abusive male pattern behaviour that indicates risk to women and it makes you angry that women are able to do that. It makes you ashamed that trans rights were settled and the disturbing mentally unwell behaviour you support means they are dead in the water and you are looking for a woman to blame becuase you support abusive males and everyone but you can spot them a mile off. Your anger at me is your own disorder. You dont know me. You are fixating on women like me because of shame.

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  4. You cannot reason with unreasonable people. Please, please get the professional help you so obviously neede. I will not read another single malevolent word of yours. Life is way too short. Thank goodness there are good human beings like Nell and the many who are welcoming to others who may be different to them. You should try it.

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    • You have posted here to support an abusive male, who used the threat of violemce to coerce women, you have stated clearly you do not recognise abusive behaviour and you are angry at a woman you dont know for being able to recognise abusive behaviour you cant recognise. Might I suggest a psychiatrist instead of stalking, and abusing and projecting your dysfunction onto women who recognise what you dont.

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    • In futurew if you are ashamed of the behaviour of your mentally unwell and abusive friends you take it up with them. You do not engage in this, Its weird and creeepy and disgusting. Like Nell Stockton.

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  5. You seem to have a disproportionately high opinion of yourself and absolutely no insight into the inappropriate nature of your own behaviour. Your comments amount to threats to other women and your language is steeped in misogyny and yet you appear to believe that you have some sort of insight into the motivations of others that have absolutely no foundation in accurate or actual knowledge, fact or reasonable deduction. If I were asked to assess from your comments and your ‘article’ where the biggest threat to women lies I would have no hesitation at all in laying it at your own doorstep. I do not pity you but I can clearly see the self-hate and cry for attention contained in your ‘word soups’. Unlike you, my trans friends have threatened nobody and, also unlike you, continue – despite your embodied threats – to fight for the equalities that we are all due with dignity, intelligence and empathy for all. It’s a shame that you are not able to fight for equality too rather than against it.

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    • If you are unable to recognise abusive and disturbing behaviour I suggest you refer to the Duluth Wheel. My ‘awfully high opinion of myself’ appears to be rooted in my ability to spot an abusive male and describe that behaviour accurately without taking responsibilty for the mental disorder of abusive males. Thats not unusual., All women can do it. Women know this. Its why nell stockton doesnt, he is an abusive male with no insight into his behaviour and your targeting of my blog is about your projection of importance onto me. Cos otherwise you have to accept that in 2018 its not even unusual for women to know this shit. And develop insight into your nutty behaviour and the risk you evidentlt pose to women.

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  6. Again you demonstrate your absolute lack of knowledge – the Duluth model has been declared to have absolutely nothing to say about the nature of female on female abuse – which is what you’re displaying here especially to the women who comment as well as to Nell herself. As for your ability to “spot an abusive male” I would suggest that you’re looking in entirely the wrong place. You are a sad sad individual who has absolutely no grounding in reality – not to mention empathy or compassion or even common decency.

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    • I am discussing ability to recognise abusive patterns of behaviour, and your lack of insight into what is normal behaviour nad what is not, aligns closely with your habit of pestering women you dont know for being able to recognise risk posed by men like Nell Stockton. Do one dude. This woman isnt interested in your bollocks.

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  7. Here’s your homework for tonight. Google ‘gaslighting’ and absorb what you get. Hopefully you’ll realise that it’s a very good descriptive term for what you’re trying (and failing) to do here to those of us unlucky enough to have come across your solitary rambling. Unhappily for you the only person you seen to be convincing is yourself, and the level of delusion that that demonstrates is truly astounding.

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    • That would be you coming to my page to tell me that my ability to recognise Nell Stocktons behaviour as disturbing., manipulative and abusive. Your rage at a woman being able to identify abusive behaviour is almost as amusing as you appropriating the language of abuse and harm to hide from your shame at your behaviour. Yes abusive men get angry when women can identify them as abusive men, no we dont need abusive mens permission to know they are a risk, yes I am absolutely entitled to do that and yes your rage, stalking, and psychological issues are all yours and nothing to do wiuth me dude.

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    • Now the cause I am ‘defending’ is the rule of law you were not aware of. If safeguarding children and vulnerable women from male violence and abuse injures Nell’s identity its because he is an abusive man. When he uses violence and threats of violence to leverage emotional blackmail because he thinks women shouldnt be allowed to meet its because he is a disgusting abusive man, when he defames women who have helped him, its because he is a disgusting abusive man, His focus on me is becase he is a disgsting abusive man. Your abuse of me is becase Nell Stockton is a disgusting creepy abusive man who women recognise as such. Always was the case.

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  8. Gaslighting is an absolutely ideal way to describe your behaviours – trying to convince other women that you are entirely ‘right’ and they are entirely wrong using emotive and manipulative (not to omit misogynystic) language and pseudo science. I’ve witnessed it so often in cases of domestic abuse (male on male, male on female, female on female and female on male, not to mention to children and extended family) that it becomes unmistakable……… Very easy to spot for onlookers but almost impossible for the perpetrator to see, or if they do, to acknowledge. Denial and inappropriately applied anger are also the root of so much abusive behaviour and self-harm. The thought that you are perpetuating such harm against other women should stop you in your tracks but won’t because you so obviously lack insight. Your inability to accept criticism stands out like a duck in a flock of turkeys.

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    • A woman saying she can identify male pattern abusive behaviour is harming who? Only one group who react with this level of shock amd outrage to that and thats abusive males. This is deranged btw. Your behaviour. I dont give a fuck whether you are a man or a woman, the behaviour is the problem. Take it somewhere else and get used to a world where subordination of women is both illegal and socially unacceptable and where women are literate in identifying that. Its the one you live in.

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      • Alas, your poisonous behaviour has ultimately resulted in your demonstrating that you have become the abuser – abusing and threatening other women in such a public manner that the dissonance resulting must be difficult for you to properly internalise. Your behaviour, “dude”, is unacceptable no matter what ’cause’ you think you are defending.

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      • You came to MY page to tell me that Nell Stockton, who demonstrated severe mental disorder, who leveraged threats of viololence against emotional blackmail wasnt a danger to women. I told you he was. Your disturbing behaviour on my page is you demonstrating disorder, nothing to do with me. I dont know Nell outside his disturbing behaviour which evidences risk to women and disturbance, nor you, you are just the weirdo parked on here harassing me. You are accusing me of your own behaviour and motivations because of your disorder. Now fuck off.

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      • Seemingly your definition of “nice” lacks any degree of accurate or intelligent polish. Your abuse of other women is extreme and unpleasant and demonstrates just how badly you mirror the very oppression you purport to fight. The assumption you have made here, that every woman replying to your dross must actually be a man (because, obviously, in your eyes, a woman can only be a woman if she shares your disturbing patterns of abuse and has no right to an opinion that is not identical to your own), demonstrates your inability to adjust your beliefs to match fact and and a dissociation from reality that is disturbing, whilst your adoption of the language of oppression does nothing other than to perpetuate the abuse you purport to dislike so much while – at the same time – displaying personally. The fact that you are not able (or refuse) to recognise your behaviour as abusive continues to indicate the purely egotistical (and narcissistic) structure of your belief patterns, but, worse, it actively degrades the cause of equality for all women. Sadly, with every comment you simply dig a deeper and darker hole for yourself that is starkly visible for all observing.

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      • I dont find nice works with abusive mentally unwell males like Nell Stockton., setting boundaries does. If nell wants to pass as a woman he needs to stop supporting threats and violence against women stop being an abusive mentally disordered male and not defame people and not send his weird mates to harass women for knowing what he is. I dont do nice when dealing with people like you, I do boundaries.

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      • Women didnt wait for men to agree they were abusive and dangerous before standing up to them. Tat would be foolish. Tell Nell that if he wasnt an abusive misogynist he wouldnt NEED to harass and abuse women to protect a false identity. Noone gives a fuck about his identity when his behaviour is what it is.

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      • Having produced such a publicly available rant with no facts to back it up you obviously did not expect to be ignored, and yet, when you received the attention you so obviously wanted, you were (and continue to be) upset when the response you desired was not forthcoming. I witness similar behaviour from internet abusers on many forums but most notably those associated with the abuse of women and children. The fact that you have not made this association but instead continue to insist upon the appropriateness of your continuing abuse actually aligns you with abusers of any gender. This pathalogical hatred is in itself more than disturbing and I would tend to believe actually qualifies as a ‘hate crime’ deserving of the only form of attention that you would not wish to receive. The fact that you seem to consider your rants ‘literate’ is simply amusing. That you consider then appropriate is ultimately nothing other than disturbing. Your excessive frustration that others do not agree with you is obvious and somewhat amusing – children behave in a similar manner when challenged and when their language capabilities do not allow for an ‘adult’ response.

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      • Sweety, you can throw as many words as you like, yu can accuse me of your own behaviour you can say how mean it is for women to know that Nell Stockton is an abusive mentally unwell male, it will still be the case. Sorry. Now go see a psychiatrist and sto bothering women you dont know cos women having autonony makes you angry. Sorry, am not nice to abusive males, gender non binary innit? Nell should try it and the dress might be more effective.

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      • Again with the misogyny. ‘Sweety’ is a belittling term used commonly by abusers of women and children to hide their intention behind supposedly affectionate language. Your using of this alligns you clearly with abusers and in no way with those who would fight abuse. Every comment you make exposes your malign behaviour further.

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      • You appear to have a mental disorder. You have no ability to recognise Nell Stocktons abusive behaviour, believe women recognising that are being mean. We get it. You can spew out word salad you freak, You are angry at a woman you dont know for knowing a man who used threats and emotional blackmail and defamation is mentally unwell man. I dont know you, dont want to know you, dont read most of the garbage you have posted. You are harassing someone because you are mental. I dont need anything frm you and your beliefe I am looking to a mentally unwell internet troll for permission, validation or compliments is because you are mad, An actual disturbed mental person. Tell Nell its not my fault women stil notice he is an abusive man. He needs to work harder at hiding that. Women are not stupid.

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      • It’s sad that you simply lack the ability to recognise the harm you are perpetrating against other women by your abusive language and belief structure. By posting publicity you obviously desired attention – just not the attention you have received – and now that you have it you are unable to absorb what you are being told. Your adoption of the language of abusers everywhere regardless of their gender continues apace without any indication that you recognise the harm you are inflicting upon women and children despite your desire to insist exactly the opposite. This dissonance becomes more obvious and extreme with every comment. You use the language of sexual assault (“fuck off” [sic]) seemingly without caring about the effect you have upon those who have experienced abuse and you continue to align yourself with those who you purport to ‘hate’ – with the ultimate result that there appears no other option but to conclude that you ‘hate’ yourself at least as much if not more than those you attack. You should also note that to weaponise mental health by insisting upon the ‘illness’ of a woman you do not know is unforgivable.

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      • Your millions of words to me are nothing but your mental disorder. If Nell Stockton does not wish to be perceived as an abusive man changing his behaviour is open to him but your attacks on me are about you. Now fuck off and stop harassibng women because of your own issues you weirdo. Fuck. Off.

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      • And no telling an abusive male who is behaving in a disturbing way is NOT analogous to you being raped. Thats you being menta. See a psychiatrist and tell Nell Stockton if he wants women to not see him as an abusive male change his behaviour. Noone cares.

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      • Peppering your multiple replies (all containing pretty much the same analogies to sexual abuse and violence) with threats and the language of violence and abuse is abusive to another woman, no matter what angle you crane your metaphorical neck in order to try to view it. You must have a proper crick in your neck by now.

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      • Mate, Nell Stockton is a creepy abusive male. Your obsession is about him and its about you and its definitely not about me. Honestly you wonder what happens to a human being that they behave this way. Weirdos. Creepy weirdos.

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      • Indeed, your answers are all the same, empty of anything meaningful excepting hate and seemingly incapable of furthering any dialogue other that your self-obsessed narrative. Posting publicly is a request for interaction – or in this case, a request for approval, which you have not received and which obviously frustrates you. Your narrative is unsubstantiated by anything meaningful other than slander and hateful bile. By all means continue digging your little hole deeper. Hopefully you will dig it deep enough that your self-applied downfall will only be hastened.

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      • Woman says no. Woman sets boundary. Is harangued till it changes. It doesnt. Nell Stockton is a mentally unwell and abusive male who poses risk to women and said so. That wont change. So my reply cant. Maybe if nell got the required help so he didnt have to behave that way.

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      • Maybe if YOU got the help you so obviously need you’d be less of a threat to the women you perport to represent. Abuse is abuse no matter how many pretty (and not so pretty) ribbons you wrap it up in.

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      • Woman sets boundary. Continues to set boundary. Internet troll who thinks leveraging abuse of women to get your own way is normal, thinks defamation and trying to end female of assembly is normal thinks woman is being mean. Yeah. Thats the history of womens rights. Nell Stockton is a mentally unwell man who cannot hide the risk he poses to women and you are an internet troll who thinks he is normal and his behaviour is normal. Noted. Endlessly. As is your difficulty accepting boundaries. Pls see previous point restated. Oh wait…shall we count down to the next commebt that says you are mentally unwell and have difficulty with basic boundaries…yawn. Nell Stockton is an abusive mentally unwell man who thought his disorder was womanhood and behaved abusively to women and was shocked we still recognised it when he didnt. Shocking.

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      • So far you’ve called me a man, told me I have mental health problems and used weaponise language regarding mental health because I disagree with you, used foul and sexualised language toward me, used sexist and woman-hating terminology and generally used oblique threats. I suppose that the only thing left to you really would be my sexuality. Care to have a pop at that too?

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      • I have said quite correctly your behaviour indicates issues with boundaries, disturbing attitdes to women and Nell Stockton is an absive male and you are an internet troll and I dont give a fuck who you are, and am only barely amused by your inability to accept boundaries and your projection of your mental disorder onto the woman you are fixated on. Now fuck off weirdo.

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      • ‘Weird’ or not ‘weird’ I’ll be here with you – always countering your confirmation bias. Always providing a ‘better’ – a more humane viewpoint. Always ignoring your bile and stating the obvious. See, I’m the ‘truth’ to your lies. I’m the ‘fact’ to your fiction. I am the turps on your gloss………the carrot in your Brussel sprout soup. I’m the scented candle for your farts. Enjoy.

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      • You are harassing a woman on behalf of an abusive mentally unwell male and I have already noted your inability to cope with womens boundaries. Its this that means trans rights are dead in the water and threatened globally. Your behaviour. Your need to presrent your disturbing behaviour as ‘countering’ the narrative of the rule of law existing and women being allowed to exist without harassment and abuse…is just you abusing women like Nell Stockton does. Cos you are as mentally ill as he is.

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      • Harassment is an abusive behaviour intended to cause distress – which absolutely describes your behaviour. Countering a publicly disseminated piece of slander and open harassment and hate speech is exactly the opposite – but then, you, who openly harasses a trans woman who does nothing other than to insist upon the rights of ALL women (including yourself) to live free from that same harassment, would obviously twist that definition to suit your own nefarious purposes by attempting to ‘gaslight’ another woman – with weaponised terms of mental health abuse and openly sexualised language. It is ironic that the people you are abusing here have remained calm and been insistent (in the face of your abuse) and throughout have recognised your right to engage in a ‘dialogue’ (nobody has told you to “fuck off” [sic] or threatened you – we have not reflected your threats and abuse back to you) which you insist is not taking place by merely being consistently ‘present’. At my age I have seen your ilk come and go over the decades since the 50s and leave very little discernible trace of your presence in the wake of the many victories for equality that we have fought for and achieved and which you continue to benefit from. You’re welcome by the way.

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    • Sad that your ability to engage in reasonable conversation is limited by your belief that what you say matters – at all. Your influence is almost entirely bounded by the extreme and the unpleasant. Your malign nature is understood by any who you would seek to influence no matter the effort or the platform. Simply telling someone to stop speaking truth in the face of such malign inanity as you put forth is unlikely to work as truth and decency are easy to maintain with minimal time and effort while hatred, bile and ugliness takes hard work and dedication. I can speak truth to your inanities for as long as you are here.

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      • I am not engaging in reasonable conversation. Am setting a boundary to someone. Boundaries are not debate. Its not my issue that you believe they are. Its yours. Please see previous tweets or QED

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      • You are clearly engaging in something that doesn’t quite qualify as dialogue but in the pursuit of that you seem unable to do more than abuse. Maybe your boundaries need some attention? Certainly your vocabulary and your attitude to women do.

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      • No. Just repeatedly and repetitively setting a boundary while you demonstrate your inability to perceive boundaries or respect them, thus validating earlier hypothesis about risk you pose. You do know this shit is predictable don’t you? Like little weirdo clockwork mice. Nope. I dont vcare about your identity, no I wasnt engaging with you, no I definitely wasnt seeking your approval. I was setting a boundary and you were dmonstrating why it was necessary. For readers. Cos you have to. Thats why they call it a pattern. It doesnt deviate.

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      • Tic tock tick tock. Time is counting down on your bigotry no matter how hard you fight to have it stand still. Equality is coming. Will you be there to greet it or hiding in the woodwork?

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      • Nothing is counting down Your threats are disgusting and being able to identify abusive people is not bigotry. Your promise to stalk and abuse me for punishment for describing this behaviour accurately is you threatening me. Because you are mentlly unwell as is Nel Stockton. You are threatening me and you are unwell and dont even seem to be aware. Thats why we dont want people like you and Nell Stockton near our kids. Its disturbing. No tick tock outside the clock in your head which is your mental disorder. Sorry.

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      • I will be reporting this to nells employer. And being clear on the impactr of discussing the rule of law covered by local authorities, on women, because of Nells mental disorder and the stalking anfd abuse of women he requires to feel valid.

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      • Thank you to demonstrating to readers the behaviour pattern our systems dealing with violence protect from. Your belief that you are entitled to harass, abuse, harm women, because they can identify abusive men is why we have those systems. It is mental disorder. We choose those systems over creepy old men like Nell Stockton who campaign to end safeguarding for children and demand children are groomed,

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      • if it walks like a duck, it quacks like a duck its a duck. If a man says women identifying abusive behaviour is mean and he wants access to kids and safeguarding should be undermined cos it makes him feel bad, thats just what it is. Local authorities deal with that all the time. Whicvh is why Nell wants it ended.

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      • What all reasonable people want is an end to the abusive dross demonstrated here – of which your last comments/threats are a perfect example. Your threats are endless and ultimately toothless, your lack of insight astounding and your violence easily perceived. Every new comment adds to the (considerable) list of hatred and bigotry that you are amassing and I watch with interest to see where you will allow this to take you.

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      • You have been told you are causing distress, you have repeatedly ignored boundaries and stated your intention to continially stalk and abuse me to punish me for the existence of safeguarding and protections from male violence and my knowledge oif them until that changes. that is not reasonable. Your disordered thinking is leading you to believe this behaviour is normal and your reframing of your intention in your mind, around your false identity, is leading you to believe this is normal behaviour. It is not. It is you actin to cause distress and alarm and stating clearly you will be continuing to do so and that women are not allowed boundaries from you and that if they feel fear you will continue. THis is not reasonable. Its a statement of intent from a mentally unwell person posing risk to people.

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      • I certainly will be here……. For as long as I’m needed, to counter the vicious and abusive threats, the open promises of harassment (unlike you I have made no threats, merely promised to ‘answer’ your tired abuse of another human being for as long as you insist upon posting it on a public forum) and to provide a clear counterbalance to your verbal dross. Any ‘distress’ you may claim to be experiencing is only inflicted upon yourself and by yourself. A public forum is exactly that – public. So long as you produce public verbage you can reasonably expect the public to reply. I am your public. Try to look upon me as the ‘audience’ that you desired but be assured that there will be no standing ovation, only rotten eggs.

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  9. You should maybe also note that your misgendering has been applied here to a cis gay woman. It says a whole world that you are inclined to assume that any woman able to see through your bigotry and name it for what it is must actually be a man. Shame on you.

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  10. Indeed, your answers are all the same, empty of anything meaningful excepting hate and seemingly incapable of furthering any dialogue other that your self-obsessed narrative. Posting publicly is a request for interaction – or in this case, a request for approval, which you have not received and which obviously frustrates you. Your narrative is unsubstantiated by anything meaningful other than slander and hateful bile. By all means continue digging your little hole deeper. Hopefully you will dig it deep enough that your self-applied downfall will only be hastened.

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  11. Before I go any further I’d like to point out several important things that you appear not to understand.
    • Firstly, boundaries are a personal thing and not something that can be imposed upon another person. Where they are properly applied they are termed ‘containment’ boundaries.
    Boundaries are commonly misunderstood by narcissists to mean ‘the control of the behaviour of others’. Many people do not understand this and try to use boundaries as a tool for attempting to control the actions of another person. For example, the person who says “I told my father that my boundary is that he’s not allowed to talk to me about my partner anymore but he keeps doing it anyway. He breaches my boundaries every time he talks to me.” This person is trying to control their father’s behaviour – which is like trying to hold smoke in your hand. The only boundaries that you are able to insist upon are those that you apply to yourself and the only behaviour you can control is your own.
    • When you write something about another person on a public forum it is not reasonable to expect that they do not reply. To insist that they do otherwise is to attempt to control and silence them because you are made angry by the fact that your beliefs and behaviour do not go unchallenged where other people can see and thus bear witness. The act of attempting to silence and control another person is commonly the behaviour of a narcissist.
    • Insisting that another person is mentally ill because they do not agree with you and because you wish them to ‘be silent’ or to ‘go away’ is termed ‘gaslighting’. Gaslighting is commonly undertaken by abusive individuals whose need to control others by manipulation is overpowering. Other examples of gaslighting are the insistence that you are a ‘victim’ or that your abuse is not really abuse because you’ve said it and that must mean, in your eyes, that you are being reasonable despite every obvious piece of evidence you provide to the contrary.
    • I believe that the following quote from Shannon L. Alder is applicable here :
    “You will never get the truth out of a narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.”

    Finally, I am becoming increasingly concerned at the tenor of your replies and seriously concerned that you will harm your child and/or yourself in order to apply blame elsewhere, and so I’m leaving you to your bigotry and hatred in the full awareness that you will rant endlessly as a result and claim every level of victimhood because you have failed to control the dialogue that you began. At this point, and although you have had absolutely no effect emotionally or physically upon myself or Nell (our lives have continued totally untouched by you despite your many threats) my peace of mind is more important to me than this verbal ping-pong that has seen no rhyme or reason from you. I am sure that multiple disconnected comments will follow in an attempt to continue your control by gaslighting, but as I will not see them they will be irrelevant other than to bolster your sense of ‘victimhood’ and control.

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    • You have been infesting this blog for days and days and days saying very clearly i am not allowed boundaries, that I am not allowed to discss the rule of law and if your friends behave abusively and i notice you will stalk and abuse me until you have seen a desired outcome. I cant change the law, I cant make Nell Stockton’s behaviour ok, but you appear to beloieve that stalking and abusing and threatening me will make reality go away. I can assure you it wont and your behaviour indicates you have done this before to other women not ust me. c

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